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  1. My son is a total button sniper! I agree that not allowing him to push my buttons (that he knows so well) and staying in control are very important. We find when we have a schedule and stick to it, our son vocalizes his displeasure in it but is actually much more regulated and happy.

    1. Yes, you are so wise not to listen to the griping and stick to the schedule. it makes for happier kids! My son also is able to verbalize better after some great outdoor activity, swimming, throwing around a baseball, etc. Thanks for stopping by!

  2. Wow. Today is the PERFECT day for me to read this post. My babies come from hard places, and we have made huge, huge progress together, but today was a hard day. It’s so easy for my mind to go straight to “oh, we’re back to square one.” Reading this helped me remember that all is not lost. Today just required a big investment. Thanks for writing this.

  3. Wow. Today is the PERFECT day for me to read this post. My babies come from hard places, and we have made huge, huge progress together, but today was a hard day. It’s so easy for my mind to go straight to “oh, we’re back to square one.” Reading this helped me remember that all is not lost. Today just required a big investment. Thanks for writing this.

  4. This is such great advice – and probably applies to non-adoptive parents, though they may not realize it.

    I have two children that are masters at pushing my buttons – Squish pushes the buttons that turn me into a complete softy who lets him get away with everything. Squirm, unfortunately, pushes the ones that drive me right up a wall and infuriate me. With both I am slowly learning to ignore ALL the buttons….

    1. I agree. All kids push buttons. I think hurt children tend to push our buttons more when they feel out of control. Some of my kids push buttons to manipulate,I.e., get what they want and many times it had worked because they are so cute, sweet or fill in the blank. The key to knowing when we can allow our buttons to be pushed is if we give in will it benefit the child long term or is it something that will connect us. Such as, going out for ice cream!

  5. This is such great advice – and probably applies to non-adoptive parents, though they may not realize it.

    I have two children that are masters at pushing my buttons – Squish pushes the buttons that turn me into a complete softy who lets him get away with everything. Squirm, unfortunately, pushes the ones that drive me right up a wall and infuriate me. With both I am slowly learning to ignore ALL the buttons….

    1. I agree. All kids push buttons. I think hurt children tend to push our buttons more when they feel out of control. Some of my kids push buttons to manipulate,I.e., get what they want and many times it had worked because they are so cute, sweet or fill in the blank. The key to knowing when we can allow our buttons to be pushed is if we give in will it benefit the child long term or is it something that will connect us. Such as, going out for ice cream!

  6. Great advice and so timely as my kids are about to have a huge change in routine. I have found the more regulated I am, the better I will direct (or re-direct) situations.

  7. Great advice and so timely as my kids are about to have a huge change in routine. I have found the more regulated I am, the better I will direct (or re-direct) situations.

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